In All About Love, bell hooks writes:
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Aristotle’s philosophy of tragedies in literature. Love in literature is often conveyed through loss instead of the presence. I think that’s why there are so many angsty love stories, why we fixate on the loss to emphasize the strength of the existing love. Prominent examples include Lie With Me, This Is How You Lose the Time War, Trigun, The Night Circus, White Nights, Demian - The Story of Emil Sinclair’s Youth, Carmilla. Authors also use the loss of something else, a sacrifice, to emphasize how grand the love is Six of Crows.